In losing, we gain something, in giving; we receive in return. What we gain and what we receive are, however, relative. They depend on how hard and how much we have given up. Nothing goes and comes easy. After over 20 years of emotional, mental and physical challenges in nurturing my three children, I am now reaping the fruits of my labor. I have wonderful children who are responsible, loving, healthy, and each endowed with distinct beauty and talent. My two elder daughters are through with their university studies and are now working. They are lucky to be admitted in separate universities to take further studies, for free. My youngest son will be taking his master’s course in a year. All my hardships have paid up. While it was not solely my effort, I can confidently say that I was always there during their difficult times. Rearing them took all my time; I have to give up my career. Resigning from my job was among the hardest decisions I made. So as not to miss working, I considered every day as Saturday, my day off. I kept myself busy by becoming a hands-on mom. I nursed them (my eldest for eight months and the second and third for two years), guided them on their first steps and taught them how to speak, how to read and how to write. More than a mom, I was their first friend, first playmate and first teacher. Moving and living from and in different places is not easy; I also have to go through the same adjustments my children have experienced. And it was doubly hard because I have to help them in coping with our new environments, adopting to the new cultures and even in making new friends. But events have taken a different turn now. Before they will seek my advice on almost about anything, now they are my confidants, my advisers and my best friends. Their hugs comfort me, their words add to my wisdom and their affections make me feel important. They have developed sensitivity you do not have to tell them what you feel. They can feel my frustrations. They know when I lost my enthusiasm in doing almost everything I love; writing, going out and making friends. And during my trying times, they provide the moral support, the love, and the care I need that are difficult and can hardly get from others. They keep my mind off from my frustrations; they laugh with me, they sing with me, they dance with me; they make fun with and of me. They even help me draw plans how to keep me busy and how to realize my dreams. And talking about dreams, my daughters accomplished my dream of having a good camera. I have flair for photography; I use my mobile phone camera in taking pictures after my digicam became outdated. They gifted me with a DSLR camera which they bought with their own salaries. And it does not stop there. In a week’s time, I will be flying to Prague, one of my dream cities, and embark on a four-night three-day lone tour. They arranged for my flight and hotel accommodation and cover all the expenses. I am proud of my children; they never give up on me. I like to believe that what had happened was the work of Unseen Hands… that I have to lose and give up a big part of me for my children to gain and receive the benefits… That returns, I finally realized, should not necessarily come to us but to the people we love. But I am luckier still....they share to me their blessings that are more than the things I have lost and given up.
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simplyeccentric
5/21/2012 03:23:19 am
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simplyeccentric
5/21/2012 03:19:04 am
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